What Giving Yourself Permission Looks Like.
Let me start by asking you a question... How easy do you find it to give yourself permission to do something for you? Bit hard? Thought so. It's a common dilemma for women in general.
Life is so very, very busy. And for some odd reason (probably some pattern of behaviour we've been running forever), we continue to take on more and more. You find yourself running around like a chook with it's head cut off getting nowhere fast!
So another question... Do you know about the powerful 'P' word? No? It's called PERMISSION. Yep it's really a little act of kindness towards yourself. I know, I had a bit of a hard time coming to terms with that one too. I would find myself thinking, 'I'd love to do ...., but I don't have time'. 'I have ALL THESE THINGS to do first... and then it'll be dinner time'. 'I've got a to-do-list as long as my arm... I'm flat out finding time to scratch myself, let alone finding time to meditate!' Sound familiar?
Here's the thing... the longer you put off putting you at the top of your list, the sooner you will fall in a heap! It's that simple. Failing to take time for you is preparing you for failing yourself. I say that from a place of love, trust me.
I have been one of those women who attempted to do it all. To take on EVERYTHING; to be all to EVERYONE; to continually PUT OFF doing what I knew would benefit me. The things that I had done that NOURISHED MY SOUL. Heaven forbid, someone think I'm a slacka, can't cope, got a bit, or too much time on my hands, or that I'm a selfish prat! And you know what... eventually I felt like crap!
IT IS NOT SUSTAINABLE!
Let me ask you:
How long are you prepared to continue doing the things that are depleting you?
What will it take for you to say YES! to you & NO! to things that drain you?
What would be possible if you lived your life from the perspective that you could... or rather CAN have a life that is big, and bold, and beautiful? A truly FABULOUS life.
Now you may be thinking that life is pretty good... and it may very well be. BUT let me ask, if you are truly honest, do you show up every day and shine?
Do you look from the perception that life is about joy, not duty?
That success is not about living up to someone else's or society's expectations, instead living up to your own expectations?
We get one chance at life, why sacrifice your deepest desires to conform and fit in?
When you choose to give back to yourself as much as you give to others, you will find your life will be greatly enriched. You will FEEL better. You will have more ENERGY. You will be HAPPIER. And that means you will be a nicer person to be around, you will inspire others, and you will be comfortable with who you are and what you do because you will be coming from a place of authenticity and love.
This permission for self-care/self-love gig is not some airy-fairly, hoodoo-voodoo, woosy crap. It is real. It has a purpose. It is a MUST in your life. You will find that by taking the time to really LISTEN to yourself... you know those moments when you find yourself thinking ' I wish; if only; I should', you will get the answers you need. And then by choosing to do what is best for you, giving to yourself, your life will be transformed.
This is about reconnecting with yourself. This is about being mindful and living in the moment. It's about being grateful for what you do have in your life. It's about feeling really connected.
It's time to let go of thinking the busier you are, the more worthy your are. Time to release the weight of the world from your shoulders. It's time to let go of the sad stories you run on repeat about how hard life is, how nothing ever works out for you, how everyone else has things so good. You know what... EVERYONE has something going on at some stage or another. The difference is some people CHOOSE to do things differently. They choose to take responsibility for how they want things to be... or not.
Start today.
Ask yourself: What is one thing I want to do more of? Now, think about how having more of that thing will that make you FEEL?
Ask yourself: What is one thing I can delete or delegate from my to-do-list? And then ask yourself how THAT will make you feel?
And finally, What will you now TELL YOURSELF to be okay with this first change?
I cannot stress enough the importance of taking great care you yourself. Giving yourself permission is the first step. You deserve this. You are totally worthy of being your number one! And if you think you are not worthy, then you have some serious work to do.
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