Unapologetically \"No\"...

'No', is a most powerful word. You could almost say "No" is a sentence in itself. The problem with the inability to say no, is that it highlights the fact that you have no boundaries. Embracing and mastering the ability of confidently say "No" helps you avoid being all things to everyone. It is you being in touch and honest with yourself. It can even be a form of stress relief.

What's the point of saying yes all the time, and then being resentful and angry. It's okay to say no. Women in particular have a problem with no. There is often an associated fear of not being liked Of being judged. Of being seen as or thought of as selfish. And here's the thing, people are still going to like you, and if they don't, then perhaps the question needs to be asked... Is this relationship health for me?

There are many advantages to saying No. It means you are being kind and true to yourself. You are giving yourself permission to do what's best for you. And you are displaying clear boundaries through setting clear limits and rules for yourself and sticking to them. You are showing others that you value and respect yourself.

It can also mean you are encouraging the person asking something of you to source their own solutions to their problems. Constantly saying yes will eventually lead to imbalance and unhealthy dependencies... not to mention a feeling of being controlled by others.

We are natural givers, and giving when we are running low will only lead to frustration, and burnout. If you find it hard to say no, start by saying something like 'I'll need to get back to you" or "Let me check my schedule" or "I'll think about it". These are simple diversions especially if you are used to saying yes and overcommitting your time and energy.

When asked to do something, take note of how you feel when the question is posed. If you feel tight in your chest or stomach, if you notice a silent inward groan, then that's your inner compass letting you know that 'NO' is the best response you can give.

Become aware of when you need to and not need to say no. This is a handy skill to develop. Treat yourself as your own best friend. Say no to the things that you know will drain your energy and not serve you well.